To be genuine with other people means we must attain a level of vulnerability and of self-acceptance. If a person is not confident in themselves and who they are it does not place those around them at ease. We must strive to remain true to ourselves which takes confidence, strength, and fortitude.
“The most important thing is to just be yourself.” A simple statement included in a variety of pep talks over the course of our lifetime, especially when we are younger. After hearing these words a natural response is to ask oneself, “well who else would I be?” It is possible to underestimate such a powerful directive, but if accomplished can lead to a more fulfilling life.
As we go through life and meet new people it is ingrained in us to identify with people who are authentic. It is human nature to be attracted to individuality and unique qualities possessed by others. One of the more prominent benefits of being around bonafide people is that you know what to expect. We find comfort in the predictability of their behaviors, actions, and reactions.
We can be genuine by focusing on …
- The Internal. The common expression to “trust your gut” is a powerful suggestion that cannot be overstated. The little voice inside that causes us to pause or rethink something is there for a reason. We should be mindful and carefully select our reactions to external stimuli. If we can turn our focus inward to evaluate each option prior to acting then it will show others a more “real” version of ourselves.
- Being present. It is important to focus on what is happening right now and reduce distractions. Being present in conversations and situations communicates to those around you that they are important. It expresses to the other person that they are being heard. Also Being present allows us to cultivate active listening skills.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.Ralph Waldo Emerson
- Success, not failure. Focusing on success is another way to engage in positive self-talk. Being your own cheerleader brings about a sense of positivity and determination. This also demonstrates to others that you are not afraid of failure even though it is a possibility. Remember, shoot for the moon even if you miss you will land among the stars.
- Admitting your faults. It is important to be able to see the positives and negatives about ourselves as individuals. Not just to recognize them, but to have the capacity to admit them so they can be addressed. By admitting your faults you are exhibiting your inner strength of character, which is a common trait in genuine people.
- Accepting others for who they are. This suggestion may be more difficult than those previously mentioned. It is possible to embrace individuality without being judgmental. This particular skill can take time to cultivate but requires us to have an open mind. Accepting others for who they are doesn’t mean that you will always like what they say or mirror their opinions, it is about being able to “agree to disagree.”
Being real with others helps each of us to be more comfortable with ourselves and more comfortable with how others perceive us.